The Modest Bride Blog

Every Monday on this blog, we’re going to honor the women who cheer the loudest when you say “Yes!,” who talk you down when you’re stressed over wedding details, and who stand up with you on your big day: your bridesmaids.

With the average engagement lasting a year or more (and even when you clock in at a speedy six months or less, like I did), there’s a lot of time between “Will you?” and “I do,” and your bridesmaids are there for every moment. Why not take a few moments to let these special women know how much they mean to you?

This card from Remanenets says it all, with a little glitz and glitter to boot.

Or you could remind your best girls just how much you have in common with this collaboration between Satsuma Press and Neither Snow.

If you and your girls adore all things vintage, check out these Vintage Bridesmaid Hankie Gifts from L. Elise Created.

And if you never miss a StoryCorps broadcast (I cry every single week), consider having the good people at Audio Heirlooms help you create an audio keepsake to share special memories with each girl.

Whatever way you choose to remind your bridesmaids how special they are, just make sure they get the message that their involvement makes your special day even more so. After all, who else would wear pink taffeta for you?

{Images from their respective owners unless otherwise noted}

Who says modest dresses have to have puffed sleeves? Adoring this regal dress by Joan Shum, via Poppies & Posies.

Wonderful real wedding, featured on Avenia Bridal’s blog, Fashionably Wed.

No, you’re not weird.

Let’s just get that out of the way to begin with. As the song goes, “you say potato, I say potahto…”

Maybe your preference is related to religious standards. Or you’re shy. Maybe you’re one of those people who’s always cold. Or you just want to keep a little bit of mystery alive. For whatever reason, you prefer a wedding dress that has more coverage than the “average” wedding gown. And that’s ok.

“Modest wedding gowns” have been given a bad rap, poor things, and the sites that feature dresses that must have been rejects from an 80’s prom don’t help. I know, having had the experience myself, that as soon as you start talking about a wedding dress with more coverage, things get weird. “Oh, well…” sales people say, “the style is really more for strapless dresses.” Well yes, thank you. Next news flash, please? Nothing against people who choose that style, but it wasn’t for me, and if you’re reading this blog, maybe it wasn’t for you, or you know someone who’s had that experience.

Here’s the big epiphany about weddings, though: NOBODY wants a cookie-cutter wedding. Nobody. Whether it’s that you want succulents instead of flowers, will wear a pink wedding dress, or plan to have a mix of bridesmaids and bridesmen, everyone wants to put their own stamp on their wedding. Choosing a modest wedding dress is just one more way to make your wedding yours. As far as I’m concerned, that’s not any more weird than having a vegetarian reception or using your dog as your ring bearer.

So here’s what you won’t see on this blog: diatribes of any sort, not even about choosing a a modest gown. Your wedding, your gown choice. Nor will you see exposés on terrible, scandalous wedding dresses. We’re more of a happy wedding place around here. So what you will see are lots of wedding tips, DIY features, bridal beauty ideas, gorgeous flowers, yummy food and cakes, and beautiful wedding attire (which, as a side note, happens to have sleeves and doesn’t bring the girls out to greet everyone). And the occasionalfriendly dialog about modesty. 

I hope you’ll enjoy, laugh, share, and chime in occasionally. Now, a little Louis for the road (all together now), “…you say tomato, I say tomahto. Potato, potahto, tomato, tomahto”…let’s call the whole thing “on!”